Crowd Control

Your Garden Needs A Fence

Crowd restrictions have become exceedingly popular in the year 2020.  However, even prior to a global pandemic, all public assembly facilities have been required to abide by crowd limitation laws.  Have you ever seen the long lines outside of night clubs?  This is partially to boost interest and to show a club’s popularity.  However, the bouncer at the door is also supporting efforts to manage occupant size and prevent a fire code violation.  The problem that many people have in their life is due to a lack of crowd control – you are letting too many people in.

Fire codes are not in place to hurt feelings.  They are in place to promote safety.  In order for you to maintain order in your life, you must understand that boundaries in your life are not a tool to hurt others.  Rather, they are in place to protect you and protect the things/people that are in your care.  If you allow too many people access to the vulnerable and intimate parts of your life, you are putting yourself at risk. 

First, let me be clear.  You need people in your life.  Studies show that people live more fulling and healthier lives when they have people to share life with.  However, this is not to suggest that everyone gets an all access pass to your space.  It is ok to have boundaries and to set limits on who you provide access too.  You maintain the rights to privacy.  You have permission to be selective regarding who you allow in your space.  There are people who will demand access and use guilt, manipulation, entitlement, and the abuse of authority to make you believe you owe them access.  This type of behavior is toxic in nature and borderline narcissistic.  When dealing with these types of personalities, it is important that you set clear and bold boundaries to protect your space.  As you begin to build your dreams, write your visions, and work your plans, I strongly urge you to use crowd control.  Your future is like a popular night club that a lot of people will want access too.  However, wanting access cannot be the only requirement to get in.  You cannot simply let people in just because they want in.  Continue to build, work, advance, develop and become more.  As you do, be mindful of your environment.

When I was a child, my grandmother had a vegetable garden.  She built a fence around her garden to keep animals from eating her crop.  Take note, her fence was not there because she had something against animals.  Her fence was there to protect what she was growing.  Too many people have something incredible that they are building, but they are afraid to set boundaries in their lives because they have loyalties to people that are fox-like in nature. Learn to take advice from farmers, not foxes. Only foxes get offended when they see a fence. Farmers understand what it takes to grow a thing. As you grow your garden, be sure to build a fence and put farmers in your circle.  If you don’t, harvest time will come, and you will wonder where your harvest went.